How not to look like a “mom”

May 4, 2011 in Fashion, Self-Health, Style by alliemcc

You can spot a “mom” a mile away…

So this Mother’s Day, don’t give Mom that bottle of perfume. Give her something that says, ‘I’m not a woman any more. I’m a Mom.’Saturday Night Live spoof.


Unfortunately, moms have gotten a bad rap for style—they either don’t try hard enough, or try too hard, both ends of the spectrum that are embarrassing to their offspring…

Every talk show in America regularly features “mom makeovers”…

Before and after via Stylelist

Moms deserve better than that. They give birth, they work their asses off, some of them with a full time (or more) job in addition to household and family responsibilities, and they get just one day of recognition out of the year. That sounds like B.S. to me.

Somewhere along the line, a lot of moms opt for the lowest-common denominator of functional clothing—maybe they feel un-feminine, maybe they feel guilty about giving themselves attention and care, maybe they’re hemmed in by cultural rules about what is “appropriate” for a woman with children.

And yet, they’re also subject to criticism in the form of comedy spoofs and ambush-makeovers, all giving them the message that they’re not “pretty” enough.


Any mom could be forgiven for just giving up on style, between all the conflicting pressures.

But a few little style tweaks can take you from “mom” to M.O.M.: Mature, Ogle-worthy Mama.

(OK, that was terrible, I’ll admit.)


Key indicators of “mom” style Easy fixes

tapered, light-wash jeans

boot-cut, dark wash jeans (not black)

white tennis shoes, Crocs™, or other clogs

dark-color sneakers

ballet flats

or sporty Maryjanes

sweatshirts or other tops that are several sizes too large, untucked

fitted or body-skimming cardigan or jacket

over a top with interesting details

and asset definition

(small waist? nice cleavage? Don’t be shy!)

outdated hair and make up

grow out your bangs to face-framing layers

use some smoothing product (a little hand lotion works, too)

and grow out your eyebrows


It’s the same formula—jeans + top + comfortable shoes—with just a little update. Still easy and casual enough for the hard work of mothering, plus everything else you do.


By no means should this be interpreted as a commandment, criticism, or condemnation.

If you, or your mom, are genuinely comfortable with your body image and your personal style, and it’s all working well for you, then rock on! That is far more important than again trying to change to fit some amorphous construct of acceptable style.

But if you feel like you got off track somewhere, your clothes just aren’t “you”, and you’re in a rut you just can’t seem to get out of, try some of the substitutions above to gradually work into your wardrobe.


And if you’re really overwhelmed, why not get in touch with a wardrobe consultant- ahem– who can guide you through your transformation, on your schedule and your budget?

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Or get a gift certificate for your in-and-out beautiful M.O.M. (or wife)?